< BACK  | AT HOME • September 5, 2016
The Martyrdom of Motherhood
We have been taught to take pride in the complete sacrifice of ourselves in the name of motherhood.
So indoctrinated are we that our children’s needs MUST come before ours, that anything less is selfishness of the highest level.
Yet I propose something different. Your children matter, they absolutely do. But you matter too. Your health matters, your nutrition matters, your energy levels matter, your dreams matter, your mode of self expression matters.
And it matters for a much bigger reason. By embodying that you matter, you inadvertently teach your kids that they matter. The former model teaches them the exact opposite – that what is important to them must be sacrificed and it is a badge of honor to be sacrificial. Where does this cycle allow for those involved to come into their truest being, their fullest potential when we are all being self-sacrificial?
Mothers matter. Society may have demeaned their status to labels of “stay at home” mums but they have an immense power to redirect the trajectory of the world as they raise the next generation. It is the recognition of this power and the embodiment of the values we want to teach our children is where a successful society lies.
It’s time to reflect on what we’re embodying that no longer serves our parenting and lead our children in a new direction.